We see a story for all. You can find a balance?
SQUARED BUCOLIC - We describe a picture I was recently introduced and which I have difficulty ...
A little background.
Husband and wife, beautiful, wealthy, up stairs. Children, healthy and beautiful.
He cheats on his wife began an affair with a woman. The latter is still pregnant with him (no need here to know if this conception is attempted or not).
He goes to live with his girlfriend pregnant. They choose a home close enough to the other children about him.
Here is the picture that I was presented. In a green field covered with colorful flowers in the company of many other people and friends in the area who enjoy the spring morning, there are all actors / families and above. Posasse as if sitting for a shoot Photo of Vanity Fair, talks to his partner pregnant wife while he strokes the dog of the same (step one dog?), and one of his sons caresses pregnant wife's belly. All in a '(apparent) atmosphere of peace and serenity. Reflecting quietly on my instinctive negative reaction and discomfort, I said, "and if they were intellectually and socially but ahead of me in 50 years?"
WHAT IS 'NORMAL' - What do you you would have tried to assist in this scene?
On the one hand, separate the above have all my admiration for the management of "mature" of the situation.
other hand, I put myself in the shoes of his sons and I do not think that (child of that age in the '70s) would have reacted well and accept such a complex situation, so I can only think that the apparent peace and serenity described hiding in fact a huge hardship on the part of all of the children in particular.
However, if I look to the U.S., but without going too far, when I reflect on the composition of the class families of my children, situations like the one are becoming more frequent.
but we're in a better or worse? There is a balance between traditional families (as that term still applies) and atypical families or new generation?
BALANCE, BUT NOT TOO - We try to think of a perfect sense for a social balance that can lead us to: 1. accept families with "step relatives" 2. to protect the most vulnerable in this situation, however complex (the children) 3. to protect and strengthen the traditional family so that we can still call it (that's traditional).
Point 1 I think it's now basically acquired, or otherwise to be even more how much higher the cases.
Point 2 is not bought instead. Will it ever be? On the one hand it could be because, again, as the situations of separation and start new families are common and deeply rooted in behavior, especially as even the children will grow up with references to outline these to do their course accept this new world. On the other hand, however, fortunately, the evolution of society does not touch the feeling "gut" and people's hearts, do not change the instinct. Instinct that leads a child to see a single mom and one dad who brings to the relationship with our brothers in blood as the sole and indissoluble, leading finally to suffer to see the relationship between parents (for whatever reason ). The reflection on the second point makes it even more important to step 3. On this aspect we have already much written and said (read the Tok "You had your wedding DCF"), so I will not dwell. I will just say that it is essential that the traditional family can stand the most possible and that it still works to keep the solution as "normal" in our society.
fact, while the current social and cultural forces together in a vigorous push on the goals of sections 1 and 2 (accept new families and overestimate their ability to adapt "natural" children in these situations) efforts to support point 3 are always the weakest.
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